Dear Suz,
My boyfriend watches internet porn all the time. I am not jealous of those pneumatic boobs or plastic bodies but I wonder what he is missing in our sex life that makes him want to watch that stuff. How can I get him to stop?-Not Kinky
Dear Not Kinky,
I can't tell you what your boyfriend is missing in your sex life because I am not part of your sex life. But remember that men are visual creatures and maybe he could use a little visual from you to spice things up. Then again maybe he's like most men and simply enjoys porn. Unless it is an addiction, or your sex life is suffering because of it you may want to just live with it. Or even join him once in a while, you don't have to be kinky to enjoy porn, and maybe it will liven things up for both of you and he will watch it less. To be honest I find critiquing the performances in porn clips to be very amusing, and have noticed that when I get particularly catty my significant other will turn it off rather than have me ruin the experience for him.
Showing posts with label sexual fantasies. Show all posts
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Tuesday, August 4, 2009
Friday, July 17, 2009
Silent What???
Dear Suz -
I'm really embarrassed to admit this problem, but I think about sex all the freaking time! I'm a girl - and I know that's normal for guys - but does that make me some kind of freak? I mean, every guy I meet - I start thinking about him naked and then I start thinking about getting down with him and I feel so ashamed but at the same time I love it. I love thinking about sex. I mean, I'm not a slut - I don't go out and sleep around - but my mind is always, always, always thinking about getting freaky with some guy. Am I normal or just a slut wannabe?
Silent slut
Dear Silent,
I have to tell ya that personally I don't see anything wrong with the thoughts you are having. Women have been repressed sexually for centuries. Hence your statement that thinking about sex is normal for guys but embarrassing for you. You are absolutely not some kind of freak. Besides what happens in your mind is just between you, and you, it doesn't affect anyone else unless you can't behave normally while your mind wanders.
Okay, so maybe you need to calm it down a little bit, after all you have to be able to hold a normal conversation with a man sometimes, which can be hard when you are fantasizing about doing the deed with them.
You don't need to be ashamed of your thoughts, but simply channel them in a manner that allows you to function in polite society. Try starting a journal, write down all of these hot thoughts, and you may realize that you have a future in writing erotica. That means that you could get paid to think dirty thoughts!
Thinking about sex in no way makes you a slut, it just means that you have a healthy sex drive and a lot of curiosity. What this means is that when you do find a man he should be quite pleased in the bedroom. Don't stifle your fantasies, just work at controlling them, and indulging in them at the proper time.
Men are beautiful, no doubt about it, and a tight toned body, muscular stomach or a certain eye crinkling smile can turn just about any woman into a puddle of goo, with so many men in the world there are hundreds of opportunities to fantasize daily. Which means if we give in to the temptation women wouldn't be good for anything, our houses wouldn't get cleaned, we wouldn't even make it through the grocery store because we would be too busy fantasizing. The key is to capture those glimpses in your mind, so that you can pull them out later, and indulge in your fantasy.
So go ahead and enjoy your thoughts Silent, and when the time comes you can enjoy the acting on those impulses with the right person.
I'm really embarrassed to admit this problem, but I think about sex all the freaking time! I'm a girl - and I know that's normal for guys - but does that make me some kind of freak? I mean, every guy I meet - I start thinking about him naked and then I start thinking about getting down with him and I feel so ashamed but at the same time I love it. I love thinking about sex. I mean, I'm not a slut - I don't go out and sleep around - but my mind is always, always, always thinking about getting freaky with some guy. Am I normal or just a slut wannabe?
Silent slut
Dear Silent,
I have to tell ya that personally I don't see anything wrong with the thoughts you are having. Women have been repressed sexually for centuries. Hence your statement that thinking about sex is normal for guys but embarrassing for you. You are absolutely not some kind of freak. Besides what happens in your mind is just between you, and you, it doesn't affect anyone else unless you can't behave normally while your mind wanders.
Okay, so maybe you need to calm it down a little bit, after all you have to be able to hold a normal conversation with a man sometimes, which can be hard when you are fantasizing about doing the deed with them.
You don't need to be ashamed of your thoughts, but simply channel them in a manner that allows you to function in polite society. Try starting a journal, write down all of these hot thoughts, and you may realize that you have a future in writing erotica. That means that you could get paid to think dirty thoughts!
Thinking about sex in no way makes you a slut, it just means that you have a healthy sex drive and a lot of curiosity. What this means is that when you do find a man he should be quite pleased in the bedroom. Don't stifle your fantasies, just work at controlling them, and indulging in them at the proper time.
Men are beautiful, no doubt about it, and a tight toned body, muscular stomach or a certain eye crinkling smile can turn just about any woman into a puddle of goo, with so many men in the world there are hundreds of opportunities to fantasize daily. Which means if we give in to the temptation women wouldn't be good for anything, our houses wouldn't get cleaned, we wouldn't even make it through the grocery store because we would be too busy fantasizing. The key is to capture those glimpses in your mind, so that you can pull them out later, and indulge in your fantasy.
So go ahead and enjoy your thoughts Silent, and when the time comes you can enjoy the acting on those impulses with the right person.
Playing Games!
Dear Suz -
I keep having these recurring dreams about various women I know. They all involve playing games and sex. Like the other night I was dreaming that I was playing strip Connect Four (you know, with checkers?) with this woman I know. Another night I was playing naked Twister (that one was pretty fun). Then another time it was Clue and - me with the lead pipe in the ballroom. Another time I was eating in Candyland with two women. Do you think this means anything? I mean, I get the dirty dreams with women I know, but the games? And yeah, I have to have a cold shower every morning after one of these dreams.
Boy Toy
Oh My! Dear Boy Toy,
I was so concerned and intrigued by your question that I had to move it to the top of the list.
If I were a psycho analyst I might think that you had several problems based upon what you have shared with me concerning these dreams. I might assume that you are a game player in your regular life and think of women as games to be played. I might also assume that you have some sort of fixation on childishness and may even be inclined toward pedophilia. Luckily, I am not some sort of dream interpreter or mind analyzer, I'm just Suz and I have the answer that you seek.
First off, Boy Toy, there is nothing wrong with having dreams about someone you know, even if it involves playing childhood games. You didn't mention if you happen to have an active sex life or not, so I will answer this in a manner that will give you options and reasons for either situation.
If you are involved with a woman, maybe things are a little stale in the bedroom, by having erotic dreams of playing games with other women, you aren't necessarily indicating a desire for those women, just for something different. As for the games in the dream you probably are expressing a subconscious desire for light hearted simple fun in the bedroom. It doesn't require whips and chains to spice up your sex life. If you make an effort to introduce fun between the sheets you will probably stop having these dreams.
If you are not involved with a woman, may I suggest that you either find one, or manually stimulate yourself before going to sleep. The dreams will probably cease once you find a release for your pent up desires.
If the dreams continue after making some changes you may have to face the fact that you are subconsciously fixated on some facet of the personality of these other women you are dreaming about. If that is the case, either make your move ( if you are single), or continue enjoying those cold showers while you search for the missing part of your sex life.
Again remember I am not any sort of therapist or analyst, I am simply giving you my opinion and what you do with it is up to you! Best of Luck Boy Toy! And if you get bored there's always Monopoly,Trouble, and Operation!
I keep having these recurring dreams about various women I know. They all involve playing games and sex. Like the other night I was dreaming that I was playing strip Connect Four (you know, with checkers?) with this woman I know. Another night I was playing naked Twister (that one was pretty fun). Then another time it was Clue and - me with the lead pipe in the ballroom. Another time I was eating in Candyland with two women. Do you think this means anything? I mean, I get the dirty dreams with women I know, but the games? And yeah, I have to have a cold shower every morning after one of these dreams.
Boy Toy
Oh My! Dear Boy Toy,
I was so concerned and intrigued by your question that I had to move it to the top of the list.
If I were a psycho analyst I might think that you had several problems based upon what you have shared with me concerning these dreams. I might assume that you are a game player in your regular life and think of women as games to be played. I might also assume that you have some sort of fixation on childishness and may even be inclined toward pedophilia. Luckily, I am not some sort of dream interpreter or mind analyzer, I'm just Suz and I have the answer that you seek.
First off, Boy Toy, there is nothing wrong with having dreams about someone you know, even if it involves playing childhood games. You didn't mention if you happen to have an active sex life or not, so I will answer this in a manner that will give you options and reasons for either situation.
If you are involved with a woman, maybe things are a little stale in the bedroom, by having erotic dreams of playing games with other women, you aren't necessarily indicating a desire for those women, just for something different. As for the games in the dream you probably are expressing a subconscious desire for light hearted simple fun in the bedroom. It doesn't require whips and chains to spice up your sex life. If you make an effort to introduce fun between the sheets you will probably stop having these dreams.
If you are not involved with a woman, may I suggest that you either find one, or manually stimulate yourself before going to sleep. The dreams will probably cease once you find a release for your pent up desires.
If the dreams continue after making some changes you may have to face the fact that you are subconsciously fixated on some facet of the personality of these other women you are dreaming about. If that is the case, either make your move ( if you are single), or continue enjoying those cold showers while you search for the missing part of your sex life.
Again remember I am not any sort of therapist or analyst, I am simply giving you my opinion and what you do with it is up to you! Best of Luck Boy Toy! And if you get bored there's always Monopoly,Trouble, and Operation!
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